Communication Skills

Communication Skills

Check Your Communication Skills


How Effectively Do You Communicate? Use this checklist to rate your communication skills. The more effective you are, the better the outcomes you will achieve.


Effective Communications



  • Do you pay complete attention to others when they are speaking? (A wandering focus discourages open communication.)
  • Do you manage your thoughts during a conversation, focusing them on understanding what the other person is saying? (Effective listening requires more concentration than any other form of communication. If you are thinking about anything other than what the person is saying, you are defeating your ability to understand.)
  • Do you postpone preparing your reply until after you have heard everything the other person has to say? (Thinking about what you plan to say while the other person is speaking prevents you from understanding what that person is saying.)
  • Do you ignore distractions such as other people, ambient noise, and the surroundings? (Attending to distractions makes you appear uninterested, unfocused, and rude.)
  • Do you make eye contact during a conversation? (Watching a person’s face shows that you are paying attention. You also gather nonverbal messages, which can convey most of the important information being conveyed to you.)


  • Do you convey confidence, courage, and strength during your conversations? (A pleasant manner will encourage people to trust you and tell you more. Negative behavior conveys weakness, insecurity, and fear.)
  • Do you react calmly to bad news? (Anger frightens people into avoiding you.)
  • Do you encourage others to speak freely? (Appearing interested, asking questions, and treating others with respect encourages open communication.)
  • Do you use a diplomatic, positive vocabulary? (Talking about what you want is more forceful than talking about what you don’t want, won’t do, or can’t do. This means that you will avoid using the word “not.”)
  • Do you seek solutions? (Seeking approval, culprits, or excuses, discourages communication.)


  • Do you stick to the subject? (Introducing new unrelated issues confuses the other person and degrades the quality of your conversation.)
  • Do you maintain a “you” focus? (Speak in terms of what the other person needs, wants, and understands because that enhances the impact of what you say.)
  • Do you avoid games? (Asking trick questions, setting traps, and making others look bad will cause people to avoid you.)
  • Do you use a linear, logical approach to explaining things? (Make it easy for others to understand what you are saying because it’s more efficient.)
  • Do you use common terms? (Avoid jargon and flowery speech because these impress only the person using them.)

Effective leaders answer, “yes” to all of these questions, and that is what makes them so successful.

About Dr. Surya

Using Quantum Physics and business research, Dr. Surya explores the correlation between the science of consciousness and patterns in the business world, to suggest innovative ways of using this wisdom to lead and succeed in a business environment that is constantly evolving at a rapid pace. Self-awareness is the awareness of the self as separate from the thoughts that are occurring at any point in time. Without self-awareness the self perceives and believes the thoughts that are occurring to be who the self is. Self-awareness gives one the option or choice to choose thoughts being thought rather than simply thinking the thoughts that are stimulated from the accumulative events leading up to the circumstances of the moment. Along with his work as an Author, Writer, Blogger and popular Internet Radio Talk Show Host, Dr. Surya is in-demand as a public speaker. Clients include small to large corporations and individuals.
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