Seeing Good in Everyone – Quantum Physics of Beliefs

Seeing Good in Everyone – Quantum Physics of Beliefs

How to be Non-Judgmental without coming Across as Judgmental

I am in the middle of running a mini-series of Radio Talk shows in analyzing ‘Being Judgmental’. [If you haven’t heard them yet, here are the URLs]:

This article will provide a bridge in my thought process and hope to fill some gaps that I find unable to fit during the radio broadcasts.

[As discussed in Part 2… ] In the 7th Chapter of the Matthew in the New Testament, it reads: “Judge not, that you not be judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Am I suggesting you have to be religious or spiritual to understand judgment and the importance of non-judgment? No. I just happen to think these particular verses provide guidance to us on how we think about how to be non-judgmental practitioners.

Am I willing to accept that how homeless (or formerly homeless) people in my community live their lives is not something that I can or should judge? Or do my own values influence how I see the issue? Can I frame my thinking from an ethical standpoint (rules within a specific context to determine what is right or wrong)? Or do my morals override (how things should work or be understood as right or wrong based upon my individual ideals)?

Some examples…

I live an abstinent lifestyle (I do not eat meat and I do not drink spirits or wine/beer) but I service participants that use alcohol and meat dishes at gatherings that I host. My own morals may suggest abstinence is best – perhaps because of my own personal experience or religious beliefs.

You are personally against abortion and believe that life starts at conception. The laws of the land indicate that abortion is legal, and you may have female clients that are seeking assistance with knowing the whereabouts of an abortion clinic.

I do not believe in sex outside of marriage. Yet, I do not discriminate against unmarried clients that I am supporting (who may be seeking condoms or other devices to prevent disease or pregnancy).

You are against corporal punishment. However, it remains legal in domestic/home settings where you live. We see parents spanking or hand-slapping their children after the child has done something wrong.

See my point?

I have come to accept that I am remarkably flawed human being. I have many faults that I am on the precipice of being perfectly imperfect. Do I want to be judged? Goodness knows I judge myself plenty. I don’t need someone else doing it too. I know the areas of my life that I am worse at… some are a work in progress, some are on the to-do list, and others are on the “I have accepted, it will always be there and now let’s move on” list.

But, it is not because I have an exhaustive list of defects that I cannot and will not judge others.

It is because I have learned to accept that the people I serve will be different than me. This makes them no better or worse – just different. There are laws and due processes that we, as a society, have put into place to deal with the bigger stuff like murder and abuse and victimization and exploitation. The other stuff? Unless I am ready to hold a mirror shoulder high and say it to myself, I am certainly not in a position to pass any commentary on others. I haven’t walked a mile in their shoes nor can I point out the sawdust in their eye when there is a log in my own. Or from the wisdom of Thoreau, am I willing to see all the strengths and opportunities within the person, or is what I see only the defects and shortcomings and past mistakes? Guess it depends on what I see. I hope to see the good in everyone.

About Dr. Surya

Using Quantum Physics and business research, Dr. Surya explores the correlation between the science of consciousness and patterns in the business world, to suggest innovative ways of using this wisdom to lead and succeed in a business environment that is constantly evolving at a rapid pace. Self-awareness is the awareness of the self as separate from the thoughts that are occurring at any point in time. Without self-awareness the self perceives and believes the thoughts that are occurring to be who the self is. Self-awareness gives one the option or choice to choose thoughts being thought rather than simply thinking the thoughts that are stimulated from the accumulative events leading up to the circumstances of the moment. Along with his work as an Author, Writer, Blogger and popular Internet Radio Talk Show Host, Dr. Surya is in-demand as a public speaker. Clients include small to large corporations and individuals.
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